Talk about drama. I thought when I joined a community USTA tennis league that I would get good exercise, a few fun nights with great ladies, etc. Nope. What started out awesome has all turned into a giant drama fest. Don't get me wrong, I still love tennis. I just don't love all of the drama that has come about over the last week.
Here's how it all unfolded. I will try and tell the short version. Normally our captain sends out the line up on Saturday of who is playing at our match on Monday night. Last Saturday we got an email from her that said the line up was TBD. I didn't like that but went along with it and showed up Monday night for warm ups like I'm supposed to. A few minutes before the match we find out who is playing. I'm not one of them. Not a big deal because I had only sat out once before. Come to find out my partner and I would not play in the remaining three matches because our coach was worried that we would get bumped for winning. (Side note: If you get bumped to the next level then you can no longer play out the rest of the season and all of the matches you won this season are disqualified and your team loses them. Yes, a terrible USTA rule if you ask me.) I wasn't mad that I wasn't going to play competitively again until sectionals, I was mad that my coach knew it and didn't tell me until I confronted him. That really isn't the bad part of the night.
Sparing all the details there were two bigger issues that came up. One, our co-captain (at the direction of our coach) threw her match. Basically once our team secured the three wins we needed that night to win the team match, she said her knee hurt and she forfeited the game. I don't have an issue with her throwing the match. There aren't rules against that. The problem I have is that she didn't tell her doubles partner so essentially she got thrown under the bus.
The other is that our captain was hiding one of our players in the back area so the other team would be confused as to who on our team would play and then make their line up accordingly. Ridiculous right!?!? After all of this happened we later found out that our coach has some bad history with the USTA and also had inappropriate relations with a player. Drama. Again not what I signed up for. In the last week we've lost four players - one of which is my doubles partner. I will now either play singles or be realigned with a new doubles partner, which I'm not thrilled about.
There has been a lot of conversation this last week about what is morally right. Is it cheating to throw a match? Is it okay to try to trick your opponent? If you continue to play on the team, are you endorsing that type of behavior? If you leave the team because of actions of the coach and captain, are you reneging on your commitment to the other ladies on the team, specifically your doubles partner. Is the coach's personal relationships off the court something that you can hold him accountable for on the court?
Everyone seems to have different views on what is right. Bottom line is that you have to do what's right for you and live by your standards and what you feel most comfortable with. It's so sad that someones need to win overrides their ability to play a sport for fun. This is a great example of how someones poor choices has caused a lot of hurt, frustration, anxiety and drama for lots of other people.
At this point I remain a part of the team but have not fully made up my mind on if I will play in sectionals. If there continues to be drama then I will need to find a different team to be on. So Sad.
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